Negative thoughts act like a knife to my mental well-being.
We’re surrounded by negative thoughts and images all day long.
Television news is almost completely composed of bad news.
The radio is full of the terrible things that happened yesterday, or even today.
The internet is full of overwhelmingly negative content.
But you DON’T HAVE TO LISTEN!
You CAN stop it (although it does take practice).
Twenty years ago, I came home from work to find my two step-daughters watching “Beavis and Butthead”. I asked them “Can’t you find anything better to watch?”. ” Well, yeah, but this is hilarious! ”
The next day, they were watching “South Park”.
The day after that, I cancelled my cable.
I haven’t had regular television since, and seldom wish to have it back.
The negativity and idiocy of television did not improve my quality of life, and I surely wasn’t going to pay actual money for trash. So, I got rid of it.
Most people think I’m crazy, but then about a minute later, they’ll come back with “I wish I could do that” .
You can cut the cable that keeps feeding the same junk into your head day in and day out.
You don’t have to get rid of your TV. But you do need to pay attention to the thoughts that keep running through your head.
Six times today, for two minutes, stop whatever you’re doing and consciously think about a situation that causes you pain. “I’m concerned about _________.”. Tell yourself “I’m worried that ________ will happen.” And then, remind yourself that each of those possibilities in your head is a negative thought that acts like a knife wound to your psyche. Go ahead and consider each of those things, and with each one, tell yourself to stop. That’s it. Just stop.
And let the quiet voice have some time to speak. That small voice is the part of you that chooses love. Love of yourself and everyone and everything around you.
Because, if you let love grow, it can change you. And the whole world. Let it happen!
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Have a blessed day!
With Grace and Gratitude
Remind yourself today that “I do not know what anything is for”.
The universe, according to Pam, is like the tool section in Home Depot.
Most of us can stroll through that series of aisles and marvel at how many different tools there are, each one with a slightly different purpose or application.
Most of us are truly amazed by how many different ways one project can be accomplished.
And most of us have few clues as to how those tasks actually get done.
But the universe has EVERY tool at its disposal, and wants us to get the heck out of the way, so construction can continue!
I get in my own way too darn often to admit, but if I remind myself regularly that “I know NOTHING!”, it helps.
Remind yourself six times today that inspiration and blessings can come from ANYWHERE, and that it’s important to remember that “I know nothing”.
And enjoy today! Happy Friday!
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With Grace and Gratitude,
Today you fire your brain.
Your brain is exactly like that guy at the Motor Vehicle Department who can’t conceive of any service other than he’s already done. You know, that irritating guy who, when you explain exactly what happened and why you’re there, just looks at you blankly.
The guy with no imagination, and no idea how to deal with anything new.
So, fire him!
Hire in your stunt double – that other you, there deep in your heart, that knows (and always has known) you can do anything, be anything.
Because your brain does NOT have your best interests in mind. It’s intent on classifying every experience, in light of the past, and has no clue how to allow new ideas in.
Five times today, for two minutes each time, take this statement and fill in the blanks. “In the situation involving _________, I would like _________ to happen, and _________ to happen.
And take a close look at what you’ve written.
Are some of those things contradictory? Because a clear and concise focus is the key.
Your stunt double knows what you REALLY want. Whether it’s learning how to jump out of a perfectly good airplane, or be the perfect example to your kids.
So fire that guy in your brain, the DMV guy, and let him move on to another place. Put your stunt double in charge.
And don’t forget to fasten your seatbelt!
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With Grace and Gratitude
The world is merely an effect of my thoughts.
This is the shocking part of quantum physics that you will never hear on the evening news.
The whole “We gotta change the world” paradigm that we’re expected to buy into, is garbage.
The truth is, we have to change our outdated, ineffective ways of thinking. We actually have to get off the couch (at least mentally), and change ourselves.
In the Matrix, Morpheus tells Neo, “There’s a difference between knowing the path and walking the path.”
And if you’re having a hard time changing those cemented-in patterns that keep you frozen in an endless, repeating loop, just ask for help.
The universe wants to be good to you. The universe is constantly searching for people who want to do better, be better, and is ready to unload its bounty upon you.
As you begin to arrange your thoughts into creative, loving patterns, the universe will rise up and take your hand.
Be ready for the ride!
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And if you’re sceptical, here’s a thought.
Several months ago I found myself having to quit a job that was too physically demanding for my 55 year old body.
I didn’t have a new job lined up, but simply couldn’t continue in the job I had.
So, I quit.
And, one evening a couple of weeks later, I told my husband “This next job, I’m going to have to have a desk. And, the perfect job would give me time to pursue my creative stuff, while I’m there. Oh, yeah, and they’re going to treat me like I’m gold!”
It did take a couple of months. But I’m in that perfect job now!
Thanks to the universe, who listened when I finally articulated exactly what I wanted!😘
Give it a shot, after all. What have you got to lose, except a bunch of needless negativity?
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No-one gets to be critical of our kids. Especially when they’re small.
They’re kids, right? They make mistakes, they do silly stuff, stupid things sometimes, but they’re OUR kids.
And NO-ONE else gets to criticize. We, the parents, jump in and with love and humor help them out of whatever ridiculous situation they’ve gotten themselves into, and try to help them learn from it.
But we are SO critical of ourselves! Listen to that snarky voice for a few minutes, and you’ll realize just how un-loving and un-helpful that voice is.
We continually hear that voice in our heads that’s telling us “You’re not smart enough. You’re not pretty enough. You’re not good enough. Blah, blah,blah.”
But it’s bullsh*t.
That voice is NOT the voice of a loving and compassionate universe.
That voice has no more reality and substance than what we allow.
I’d NEVER speak to ANYONE in that tone of voice, or say those things to my child! So, why do I allow that voice to speak to me that way?
Beating ourselves up all day does NOT change anything, other than making us feel worse.
Be to yourself, today, that loving and compassionate parent who’s there for you, looking out for you, helping you learn and grow.
Remind yourself, 5 times today, look around and remind yourself that what you fear is not real.
And go on to enjoy this day!
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To clear my mind of thoughts that make me unhappy, i have to hunt them down like rabid raccoons and get rid of them.
Even the smallest thought about something or someone, that isn’t perfect, or kind, or loving, has to be rooted out of my garden of beautiful flowers and disposed of on the compost heap.
Each time the teeniest idea that the experience I’m having right now isn’t perfectly aligned with the great things the universe has in store for me, that’s doubt and I have to deal with it as the true enemy.
Doubt, fear, and uncertainty can be found everywhere, but I don’t have to buy into it.
Five times today, look around you.
Tell yourself that you are determined to see “_________” (bonehead next to you) differently .
Tell yourself that you are determined to see “_________” (situation you seem to be stuck in at the moment) differently.
Find that tiniest scrap of an idea that something around you today isn’t perfectly satisfactory, and compost that puppy.
Because the log jam will clear out, the branches will eventually move out of the way, and the river of life will begin to move again. And I have to be ready for that jump!
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“Today I am determined to see.”
Commit today to seeing a radically different reality.
Look for a reality where kids DON’T grow up being bullied in school, because the kids who’d be bullies, don’t need to be.
It’s easy to love the people who we’re already attracted to (or, in my grammar-perfect household, to whom we’re attracted).
But everyone has some redeeming qualities, and today your task is to really LOOK.
I just read an article about a prison where the inmates are given the chance to study and earn college degrees. That institution has a less than 2% return rate.
Those are people who didn’t grow up in the same world that I did, but they’re getting a chance to change their world, and that of their children. And 98% of them are grabbing that chance with both hands and hanging on for dear life.
It’s hard to change our brains, but it’s so rewarding. Suddenly, there’s a lot more to love out there, in this crazy, busy, beautiful world!
Three or four times today, stop and really LOOK. Try to see the truth under the surface “reality”. Think about that person who you hate to be around, and SEE the person under those mannerisms that drive you crazy.
And remind yourself, everyone is worth loving. Everything is here for a reason. But you have to train your brain to really LOOK, before you can see that deeper truth. Find it!
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Today is all about being interconnected with everything and everyone else.
I remember in my Junior High science class the feeling I got when I realized just how interconnected everything is in Nature.
Its “starts” with sunlight (because you gotta start somewhere). Sunlight, beaming down on plants, lets them grow. Rain does, too. The plants feed animals, some of whom get eaten by other animals. The wastes from these animals get used by the plants to grow more plants, which feed more animals, and so on. (Please excuse the simplification here!)
The point, though, is that without the plants, the animals can’t survive. Without the animals, the plants would take over, then die. It’s all dependent on every part of the system. Without rain, or sunlight, or plants, or animals, the system collapses.
How we perceive the things and people around us, has an effect on both them and us.
If I believe that the young lady who works next to me is a thoughtless, inept, unintelligent person, my reactions to her are colored by that belief. And she in turn, will “feel” that vibe, and react to me in ways that are consistent with that notion.
So my thoughts have an effect on the things and people around me. I’m an inextricable part of the system.
Today’s practice thought is this:
“I am not alone in experiencing the effects of how I see ________.”
Three or four times today, look around and pick some random object.
Say to yourself “I am not alone experiencing the effects of how I see my computer”.
“I am not alone in experiencing the effects of how I see that Valentine’s day bouquet.”
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Nothing I see or think about is neutral.
Every thought I have, has a “spin”.
It’s up to me to pay attention to those thoughts and decide, consciously, which ones I’m going to edit out of my story.
I’m the editor of my story and I get to choose which scenes to leave on the cutting room floor.
The thoughts I allow to stay in the story attract things to me that have the same spin.
All the stuff about being a neutral observer that we were taught is so much hogwash. The act of observation changes what we observe. This is a law of quantum physics, and of the world.
Nothing in Nature is neutral. It’s either positive (growing) or negative (dying). It’s either moving, or it’s not.
Here’s the exercise: Remind yourself today, two or three times, that none of your thoughts are neutral.
And if you want to be more positive, help someone else find the sunny side of life!
On the practical side, TextforHumanity.com is an anonymous switchboard set up by the CMO of Sinch, Jonathan Bean, for positive text messages. Send love out to a random stranger somewhere in the world and get love back! Just text “join” to the phone number for your country, and start sending and receiving love from all over the world!
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“My thoughts have no effect…”
Wait a damn minute!
Well, it’s not true. Actually, the way i see it, my thoughts DO have an effect if I focus on them.
And the lesson is “There are no NEUTRAL thoughts.”
Every thought I pay attention to, has some effect. If I focus on the crazy, expanding universe and the countless blessings that are mine, I receive more of that.
If I focus on the “news” about climate change, crazy gun-wielding extremists, and how everyone in the world is out to ruin my day, I get more of that.
Pay attention to what you pay attention to!
Focus on the things in your life that are wondrous, your friends, your family, your cat or dog. And appreciate how blessed you are. This is what sets you up to be more blessed, and it turns into a self-fulfilling circle.
Stop making room in your life for junk! Would you save a room in your house for the garbage? One room just to keep all the trash, the broken toys and appliances, the ripped clothing, the dirty diapers?
You keep EVERY room clean (ar least reasonably so) and take the trash out to the curb.
Take your mental trash OUT, and quit bringing it back in!
And, have a miraculous day today!
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